Always on holidays, always working

the conflicting rhythms of digital nomads

So maybe it’s not that you’ve been cheated out of an unlimited supply of time; maybe it’s almost incomprehensibly miraculous to have been granted any time at all.
Oliver Burkeman

Fine, I’ll admit it—I’m a digital nomad. I cringe at the label, but it sums up my work-life setup perfectly.

And honestly? Being a digital nomad is pretty great:

  • Morning surf sessions on stunning beaches? Yes, please.

  • No crowded subway commutes or traffic jams.

  • Flexible schedule, so you’re either your own boss or free from the boss’s constant eye.

  • You can work from the couch, a cozy café, or even the comfort of your bed when you’re feeling a bit lazy.

Sometimes, it feels like living life with a cheat code. But like all shiny things, there are hidden costs.

Conflicting rhythms

This isn’t just a digital nomad thing—it’s a remote work reality. The freedom to set your own hours is fantastic, but there’s a catch: it can throw you out of sync with the rest of the world. Most people are likely on traditional schedules, and aligning with them can be challenging.

[…] every gain in personal temporal freedom entails a corresponding loss in how easy it is to coordinate your time with other people’s. The digital nomad’s lifestyle lacks the shared rhythms required for deep relationships to take root.

Oliver Burkeman in Four Thousand Weeks

*I’ll add some balance to this opinion by noting that we’re currently witnessing a major shift in the workplace. Freedom is increasingly becoming something both employees seek and employers promise. While not everyone will end up working remotely, workplaces are likely to evolve to offer employees greater flexibility.

Meeting tourists

Digital nomads often end up in beautiful, tourist-friendly places—think warm, tropical spots like Indonesia or other parts of Southeast Asia. It makes sense: why wouldn’t you want to work in paradise?

But it also means friendships can be hard to build. Many people you meet are only around for a week or two, max. Sure, there are digital nomad hubs like Bali where you’ll find “your people,” but you might also lose some of the authenticity you were seeking in the first place.

And while connecting with locals is amazing, it sometimes feels different. You might sense that you’re seen as the wealthy outsider. It’s not always like this, but it can add a subtle layer of distance.

The Guilt

Digital nomads face a unique set of guilt trips:

  • Guilt from flying often.

  • Guilt over contributing to gentrification and seeing local culture shift.

  • Guilt from recognizing the privilege gap between you and most locals.

There are ways to lessen this impact—like using more eco-friendly transport or supporting local businesses over big hotel chains. But the truth is, it rarely feels like enough to fully balance things out.

Always working

This lifestyle can feel like a vacation that never ends, making it easy to forget you’re working most of the time. Weekends? They blend into regular workdays.

Disconnecting becomes a challenge too. Taking real time off is essential, but digital nomads seem to struggle more with this. Little tasks—checking emails, sending a quick Slack message, resolving a client issue—may only take a minute, but they keep your brain in work mode, stopping you from fully recharging.


Other challenges come to mind, too—being far from friends and family (of course), having to start fresh every few months, and constantly booking places to stay, transport, and visas.

Yet, for all its quirks and trade-offs, I still love being a “digital nomad.” The morning surf, coffee shop workdays, and barefoot freedom are my kind of perks. And right now, there’s no better time to live this life—so I’m embracing it while I can ✌️

James

Tools & Websites

  • Hardcover is a bootstrapped alternative to Goodreads, aiming to create the ultimate social network for readers. Its interface is beautifully designed, and the book recommendations have been spot on so far.

  • Datafast is a Google Analytics replacement from the well-known Indie hacker Marc Lou. It’s simpler to use, integrates with Stripe, and is way less overwhelming.

  • Amo is an animated website worth checking out. Click & enjoy!

James’ Library

Book

This book, mentioned in the intro, is one of my all-time favorites. After being bombarded with productivity tips, it’s refreshing to remember there’s more to life than checking off tasks. Plus, the author takes a few jabs at digital nomads—which I enjoyed.

Productivity is a trap. Becoming more efficient just makes you more rushed, and trying to clear the decks simply makes them fill up again faster. Nobody in the history of humanity has ever achieved “work-life balance,” whatever that might be, and you certainly won’t get there by copying the “six things successful people do before 7:00 a.m.” The day will never arrive when you finally have everything under control—when the flood of emails has been contained; when your to-do lists have stopped getting longer; when you’re meeting all your obligations at work and in your home life; when nobody’s angry with you for missing a deadline or dropping the ball; and when the fully optimized person you’ve become can turn, at long last, to the things life is really supposed to be about. Let’s start by admitting defeat: none of this is ever going to happen. But you know what? That’s excellent news.

Video

After a two-year bike journey from Vancouver to Patagonia, Martijn Doolaard decided to buy two ruins in the Italian Alps and learn how to restore them on his own. In this video and discussion with Nathaniel Drew, he shares some solid life advice—without veering into overly “zen monk” territory.

I enjoy the work. And if I don't enjoy the work I'll make sure I have a nice lunch, I watch a good movie in the evening. You make your day nice. And if your work is a bit rough then you just slice it up so it's not too much in one go.

Aesthetic Corner

Fetish

Enfants terribles | Martin Luther King

Baraka is the alter ego of French artist Antoine Musset. His early work is infused with the spirit of La Réunion—where he lived for several years—showcased through vivid colors and Creole names. His latest series, Enfants Terribles, features paintings of iconic, world-changing figures imagined as children.

Nanu created this elegant brass nudge counter to help you track your most important habits. Isn’t it beautiful?

One day at a time, keep pushing forward and stay connected to what truly matters to you.

Sustainable Living

Project Kamp is an inspiring collaborative initiative by One Army. They bought a piece of land in central Portugal, where they’re prototyping a more sustainable way of life.

The project has covered a range of areas—from infrastructure and water management to fire prevention. They brought together over 30 people from across Europe, all living in community, each with unique skills and roles, from cooking to woodworking.

Be sure to check out their YouTube channel for weekly update videos (or yearly summaries showing all the progress). If you’re interested in doing something similar, visit their community site, where they share how to replicate their work, along with resources from their research and development center.

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